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کارگاه خیانت و روابط فرازناشویی (خارج‌از ازدواج)👨‍🏫دکتر بهنام اوحدی

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رابطه خارج از ازدواج وضعیتی است که یک شخص ازدواج کرده با شخصی به جز همسر خود رابطه جنسی دارد. از دیدگاه دیگر، رابطه‌ای است که شخصی با یک فرد متأهل برقرار می‌کند.

در برخی جامعه‌ها رابطه خارج از ازدواج می‌تواند یک هنجار جنسی باشد در حالی که در جامعه‌های دیگری خیانت زناشویی و زنا نامیده شده و مجازات دارد. این نام‌گذاری‌ها بار اخلاقی، قانون مدنی و حقوق مذهبی دارد. همچنین ممکن است در جایی که منع قانونی ندارد تبعات قانونی از جمله در شرایط طلاق به وجود آورد.

رواج

در سال ۲۰۰۵ در پژوهش جهانی دورکس، ۲۲ درصد از افراد مورد مطالعه در سراسر جهان به داشتن رابطه جنسی خارج از ازدواج اعتراف کردند.

در قانون

رابطه جنسی خارج از ازدواج در بسیاری از کشورها ممنوع نبوده و غیرقانونی نیست. اما ممکن است در جایی که منع قانونی ندارد تبعات قانونی از جمله در شرایط طلاق به وجود آورد و امکان شکایت کردن افراد وجود داشته باشد.

رابطه جنسی خارج از ازدواج در بیشتر کشورهای اسلامی غیرقانونی است. مانند عربستان سعودی، پاکستان، ایران، افغانستان، کویت، مالدیو، مراکش، عمان، موریتانی، امارات متحده عربی، قطر، سودان، یمن.

چندهمسری

چندهمسری در برخی جامعه‌ها نوعی از ازدواج است که در آن زن یا مرد بیش از یک همسر دارند. اگر یک مرد بتواند به‌طور هم‌زمان با چند زن ازدواج کند چندزنی (تعدد زوجات) نامیده می‌شود و اگر یک زن بتواند به‌طور هم‌زمان با چند مرد ازدواج کند چندشوهری نام دارد.

در سنت‌های فرهنگی و دینی

همچنین ببینید: آیات حجاب، زنا، و دین و سکسوالیته

در یهودیت، کتاب تورات رابطه خارج از ازدواج را ممنوع دانسته و مجازات شلاق زدن و سنگسار ذکر کرده‌است؛ هرچند که در یهودیت چندزنی مجاز بود.

در اسلام رابطه خارج از ازدواج زنا (به ویژه زنای محصنه) نام دارد و حرام (ممنوع) بوده و مجازات اعم از شلاق زدن، اعدام و سنگسار دارد؛ هرچند که در اسلام چندزنی مجاز است.

در آیات حجاب از جمله آیه ۳۳ سوره احزاب، همسران محمد از تَبَرُّج جاهلیت اولی، نهی شده‌اند. («در خانه‌های خویش آرام گیرید و مانندِ تبرج جاهلیتِ نخستین، تبرج نکنید…») دربارهٔ معنای این اصطلاح در آثاری همچون تفسیر مجمع‌البیان اثر شیخ طَبرِسی (زادهٔ ۴۵۴ه‍.ش/۱۰۷۵م) آمده‌است:

و بعضی گفته‌اند که معنای تبرّج جاهلیت اولی این است که آن‌ها تجویز می‌کردند که یک زن جمع کند بین شوهر و رفیقش را. پس پایین‌تنهٔ خود را برای شوهرش قرار دهد (که با او آمیزش و مُجامِعت کند) و برای رفیقش بالاتنهٔ خود را قرار دهد که او را بوسیده و مُعانِقه نموده و در آغوش کشد.

خشونت

مقاله‌های اصلی: قتل ناموسی و سنگسار

در برخی جامعه‌ها رابطه خارج از ازدواج افراد جامعه با برخود خشونت‌آمیز اعضای جامعه مواجه می‌شود. از جمله قتل ناموسی و سنگسار. جنایت‌های ناموسی یا قتل ناموسی به ارتکاب خشونت و اغلب قتل زنان یک خانواده به دست مردان خویشاوند خود گفته می‌شود. این زنان به علت «ننگین کردن شرافت خانواده خود» مجازات می‌شوند. این ننگ موارد گوناگونی را شامل می‌شود از جمله خودداری از ازدواج اجباری، قربانی یک تجاوز جنسی بودن، طلاق گرفتن (حتی از یک شوهر ناشایست)، رابطه با جنس مخالف، یا ارتکاب زنا. برای اینکه فردی قربانی جنایت‌های ناموسی شود، فقط اینکه گمان برده شود او «آبروی خانواده» را بر باد داده‌است کافی‌ستسنگسار، یک نوع مجازات مرگ است که از طریق پرتاب سنگ (که به صورت گروهی انجام می‌شود) به طرف مجرم صورت می‌گیرد. در کتب تاریخی به رواج سنگسار به عنوان مجازات در یونان باستان اشاراتی شده‌است. در منابع ادیان ابراهیمی همچون یهودیت و اسلام نیز به مجازات سنگسار اشاره شده‌است.

در ادبیات و هنر

موضوع رابطه خارج از ازدواج در بسیاری از آثار ادبی استفاده می‌شود، مانند آنا کارنینا، مادام بوواری، عاشق لیدی چترلی، داغ ننگ. همچنین این موضوع تم بسیاری از فیلم‌ها بوده‌است.

جستارهای وابسته

types of extramarital affairs & what they mean

TIMESOFINDIA.COM | Last updated on -Sep 21, 2022, 21:00 ISTShare fbsharetwsharepinshareComments (2)

01/9Which affair do you know about?

We are well aware of extramarital affairs that married people have but did you know that there are 8 kinds of such affairs? There is a meaning and motive behind each of them too. Scroll down to know more about these 8 kinds of affairs.

02/9Emotional affair

It could start as a special relationship with someone and that bond or friendship becomes something more. An emotional affair is generally something that happens at work with colleagues you work with, spend most of your time with, according to a survey by Simply Hired. These affairs may or may not be sexual in nature, they are all about being emotionally there.

03/9Romantic affairs with attachment

Such affairs come into the picture when there is someone else besides the spouse. When there is an intense attraction to another person so much so that you start believing that you are in love with them and that you can no longer control yourself, it means you are in a romantic affair.

04/9The accidental one night stand

We all know that there are no such things called accidents in our emotional journeys. No affair can be accidental. It happens because you want to and you are giving into your feelings. The lines “Heat of the moment”, “It just happened”, “I was feeling vulnerable” and”I was drunk” come into the picture, are a part of the backdrop of an “accidental” affair. In this kind of an affair, the partner who is having an affair, is generally married and wants to stay in it too but wants a temporary change. In such affairs, there is no emotional attachment.

05/9The love addict affair

Love addicts feel a lack of love in their current married life and they believe that they are married to the wrong person. It feels like an eternal relationship for “the one”. This is more like a compulsion or even an obsession where one person is more about the relationship and not the physical interaction. The affair such people have could be sexual and emotional.

06/9The repeat offender sex addict affair

If a person is jumping from a relationship to another one just for sex, such a person is basically a sex addict and there is no emotional attachment. Such people never find fulfillment in any relationship and if married, they are for sure cheating on them.

07/9The revenge affair

This is amongst the most dangerous sorts of affair and those who do get into it just want to make someone else insecure. They want to prove to the third person that they are desired by others.

08/9The cyber affair

This is more like the modern kind of affair where cheaters make believe, act like someone else, be what and who they want to be because no one can see them. The fact that they can be anonymous and have fun, gives a boost to such people and they could get emotional, sexual, be obscene etc.

09/9The exit strategy affair

This type of an affair happens when you want to exit a marriage or a commitment and they have an affair so that they are caught and their partner leaves them.

Extramarital sex occurs when a married person engages in sexual activity with someone other than their spouse.

The term may be applied to the situation of a single person having sex with a married person.

Where extramarital sexual relations do not breach a sexual norm, it may be referred to as consensual non-monogamy (see also polyamory).

Where extramarital sexual relations do breach a sexual norm, it may be referred to as adultery or non-monogamy (sexual acts between a married person and a person other than the spouse), fornication (sexual acts between unmarried people), philandery, or infidelity. These terms imply moral or religious consequences, whether in civil law or religious law.

Prevalence

American researcher Alfred Kinsey found in his 1950-era studies that 50% of American males and 26% of females had extramarital sex. Depending on studies, it was estimated that 26–50% of men and 21–38% of women, or 22.7% of men and 11.6% of women had extramarital sex. Other authors say that between 20% and 25% of Americans had sex with someone other than their spouse. Durex's Global Sex Survey (2005) found that 44% of adults worldwide reported having had one-night extramarital sex and 22% had an affair. According to a 2004 United States survey, 16% of married partners have had extramarital sex, nearly twice as many men as women, while an additional 30% have fantasized about extramarital sex. According to a 2015 study by Durex and Match.com, Thailand and Denmark were the most adulterous countries based on the percentage of adults who admitted having an affair. A 2016 study by the Institute for Family Studies in the US found that black Protestants had a higher rate of extramarital sex than Catholics.

A 2018 US study found that 53.5% of Americans who admitted having extramarital sex did so with someone they knew well, such as a close friend. About 29.4% were with someone who was somewhat well-known, such as a neighbor, co-worker or long-term acquaintance, and the rest were with casual acquaintances. The study also found some gender differences, such as that men are more likely than women to hold more favorable attitudes about extramarital sex, and that among those who reported having extramarital sex in the past year, about 12% of men had paid for sex (or to have received payment for sex) compared to 1% for women. Some researchers have estimated that more than fifty million Americans may have engaged in adultery.

Other studies have shown rates of extramarital sex as low as 2.5%.

Engagement in extramarital sex has been associated with individuals who have a higher libido (sex drive) than their partner.

Religious views

Main article: Religion and sexuality

Judaism

The Torah prescribes the death penalty through strangulation for adultery, which is defined as sex with or by a female who is already married to another man. The Torah prescribes strict liability and punishment on the male, but liability and punishment on the female only if she wasn't raped (Leviticus 20:10). As a death penalty offence, two witnesses of good character had to testify in court for the case to be even considered by the judges against either or both the male and female. (Deuteronomy 19:15, and Mishnah Sanhedrin c.4)

Jewish law technically allowed men to have polygynous relationships (one man could have many wives) -although this was the very rare exception in practice, reserved only for kings, as well as for key biblical figures whose wives could not have children - so the marital status of the man was thus legally irrelevant. If a woman, however, is unmarried, a sexual relationship, though highly immoral and sinful from the religion's point of view, is not considered to be adultery, and therefore not punishable by death, but rather is considered fornication and punished by lashing.

Adultery provisions of the Mosaic law concerned itself with protecting the paternity of the potential offspring of husbands, so that the husband’s family blood line is not adulterated and replaced with the genes of another male, thereby exterminating a husband’s family's genetic lineage from that point onwards (genocide), which was a violation of the principal term of agreement and reason for entering a matrimonial contract with his wife, and a breach by a third party (the other man) of that same contract.

Any physical punishments for any offences (sins) were in effect at the times of Judges and the Holy Temple. In rabbinic Judaism, any physical punishment is prohibited by Judaism—as no proper judicial process can be provided until the Holy Temple is rebuilt by the Messiah.

Christianity

Christianity teaches that extramarital sex is immoral and sin. Scriptural foundations for this teaching are passages like 1 Corinthians 6:9–10 (KJV):

Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind, Nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners, shall inherit the kingdom of God.

In Christian marriage, husband and wife publicly promise fidelity to each other until death. Adultery contradicts this promise. The Waldensians were accused of expressing approval of adultery in certain circumstances.

Islam

Main article: Zina

See also: Adultery § Islam

Traditional interpretations of Islamic law (or Sharia) prescribe severe punishments for zina, or extramarital sex, by both men and women. Premarital sex could be punished by up to 100 lashes, while adultery is punishable by stoning. The act of sexual penetration must, however, be attested by at least four male Muslim witnesses of good character, the accused has a right to testify in court, the suspect's word or testimony is required to hold the most weight in the eyes of the judge(s), punishments are reserved to the legal authorities and the law states that false accusations are to be punished severely. The former regulations also make some Muslims believe, that the process's goal was to eventually abolish the physical penalties relating to acts of fornication and adultery that were already present within many societies around the world when Islamic teachings first arose. According to this view, the principles are so rigorous in their search for evidence, that they create the near impossibility of being able to reach a verdict that goes against the suspect in any manner.

Hinduism

Hinduism condemns extramarital sex as sin. According to the Hindu Dharmashastra texts, any sexual act outside of the accepted marriage, including physical, mental, and emotional adultery, are denounced. Various Hindu texts state the occurrences of Hindu gods engaging in extramarital sex. While these narratives state such situations to occur, research has noted that the term has been created by humans. This means that only humans who hold Hindu beliefs should restrain from such acts, while gods have no such limitations.

Law

Extramarital sex is legal in most jurisdictions, but laws against adultery are more common. In the United States, for example, Virginia prosecuted John Bushey for adultery in 2004. Other states allow jilted spouses to sue their ex-partners' lovers for alienation of affections.

Extramarital sex is illegal in some Muslim-majority countries, including Saudi Arabia, Pakistan, Afghanistan, Iran, Kuwait, Maldives, Morocco, Oman, Mauritania, United Arab Emirates, Qatar, Sudan, and Yemen. Indonesia banned extramarital sex in December 2022, but regulations may take up to three years to come into effect.

Attitudes toward extramarital sex

A person’s attitude towards extramarital sex is associated with their likelihood of engaging in extramarital sex. While some extramarital sex is deceptive, other forms are open and spouses share an understanding of its engagement. Extramarital sex poses a problem to marriage when it violates expectations of fidelity. The theory behind fidelity is thought to be a combination of moral standards and social exchange processes. The latter is based on the investment model of commitment and interdependence theory.

Motivations

Motivations behind the act of extramarital sex vary. Feelings can be more difficult to control than behavior. People may engage in the act due to feelings of dissatisfaction emotionally/physically in the marriage and imbalance in the relationship resource-wise. The intimacy vs passion argument provides reason such that it can revive passionate arousal. This contrasts to the marriage of the committed partner as they may feel they have them well understood, with little passion between them. However, an opportunity to engage in extramarital sex must also be present, where the risks are weighed less than the reasons to engage.

Factors

Factors that are negatively associated with a spouse engaging with extramarital sex are (1) strong moral standards, (2) considering the effect(s) on the children, (3) fundamental anxieties , specifically the fear of being alone, and (4) not wanting to hurt other people, specifically the extramarital partner. Of these factors, moral standards and fundamental anxieties are more likely to accurately gauge a spouse not pursuing extramarital sex.

Gender Differences

Men are noted to find sexual infidelity more hurtful than emotional infidelity. In terms of behavior, men are more likely to report having extramarital sex. Possible explanations for this span from the evolutionary perspective which indicates that it’s a genetic advantage for men to have multiple partners.

While both men and women were equally likely to have extramarital sex with a close personal friend, a long-term acquaintance, or someone not within those categories, it was noticed that men are more likely to have a extramarital sex with a casual date or hook-up. Men were significantly more likely to report having paid extramarital sex.

Impacts

The identity of the extramarital sexual partner can impact the marriage of the partner who engaged in such behavior, thereby increasing the risk of destabilizing it. The gender of the spouse engaging in the extramarital sex doesn’t matter – the resulting increased risk of disruption on the marriage is the same. Relationships with an extramarital sexual partner who is a close friend as well as this behavior in general is associated with marriage dissolution.

The damaging effect of extramarital sex on marriages is undeterred by the quality of the marriage, the length of the marriage, attitude toward divorce by the recipient spouse, advice from third parties, and the presence of children in the household. The effect on more religious couples is noted to be very strong as well, though if the wife is in the workforce the effect of extramarital sex on the marriage is noted to be weaker.

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